Pride Don't Take It Personally
Posted: Friday, March 06, 2009
by Robin Newman
Robin J
Odd things come to me at odd times which should not be surprising as I am a Gemini!!!!
While driving to the shops with my partner I started a conversation about a homeless man walking on the footpath without a warm jacket and given it was snowing and minus 10 this seemed awful. Yet we both knew there were plenty of accessible agencies who would not hesitate to supply this man with a coat if he turned up at their doorstep. So why was he walking around freezing to death? And one of the reasons we came up with was pride.
I was a single parent for a long time and on welfare so I know all about pride. I often refused help struggled through hardship simply because I was too proud to accept the hand offered.
Pride what is with that anyway what a totally useless word in my opinion. If you do not dress properly people say you do not have pride in your appearance if you do not wash the dishes for a day you lack pride in your home phooey (not sure if that is a word).
If you reach out for help you are begging lacking pride oh please give me a break. If you lose your job and are a man you lose your pride if your wife has to work again phooey.
What is pride a waste of time that stops you from living an authentic and abundant life.
If I see you wear the same clothes for a week I am not going to place a judgment on you and say "Why don't you have more pride in your appearance". I am going to sit beside you and ask" Is there anything I can do for you and if you need to talk I am always available"
If I see a man who loses his job having to look after the children or one who chooses to stay home and look after the children while his wife works I will simply go "Wow how enlightened are you" not "Geeze you can't have much pride left".
You know how I love applying Gemini logic so here goes.
What exactly does pride get you? Seriously all it seems to be is a guilt trip word people use to make you step out of your greatness.
Look at it another way we sit here and moan about what we don't have yet we use pride as a reason not to accept ask for or search for the resources that will enable us to live an abundant and authentic life.
It's like saying to the Creator "Give me the tools to build the life I desire" then when he/she does put them in your path you go "Oh no I cannot possibly use those I can do it on my own I have pride you know".
Phooey my new favorite word.
Pride is ego's way of creating an illusion that we are in possession of some wonderful human quality. Pride is fleeting it comes and goes with the tides of time and no one else really gives a damn except for a brief moment that you possess it.
Ask yourself when you are taking that last breath do you really want to be telling the Creator. I may not have created the life I wanted but at least I had my pride.
I don't know about you but I woul d r ather have a life of joy abundance and happiness. I woul d r ather live a complete life than sit alone with my pride.
I am not proud I have no pride at all I am virtually shameless. If people offer their help if I need it I will take it without blinking an eye. I will also ask for help if I need it I will access any resource available to me.
I don't much care for pride I have enough obstacles to overcome without adding one more.
People who pull out the pride card saying you should have more pride in yourself are making a judgment there is no compassion or empathy in such a statement. It's a guilt trip trying to make you feel smaller so they can have the illusion of being bigger. It a "You should" statement which implies I know what is best for you. Again phooey.
Pride broken down is
P=pass me by I don't need your help
R=really I am okay
I=I insist I can do it on my own
D=damn I wish I had asked for help
E=ego wins again
I can hear the cries already "you have to have pride in yourself in your work in your home" phooey!!!!
Pssssst I will let you in on a secret Shhhhhhhhhh
You only get one life
You cannot go back doesn't work that way
so please do not let pride stop you from creating an abundant life for yourself right now at this moment.
You do not need pride in yourself you have no need to cloak yourself in ego words. When you are living the life you were born to possess the joy you feel inside the happiness far out weighs any fleeting moments of pride and it lasts a lifetime.
Throw your pride out the window replace it with the greatness within. You are a walking divine miracle of creation you deserve to honor your greatness by using the resources Creator places in your path to build the life he/she put you on the planet to live.
That's my theory anyway.
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Top-level comments on this article: (2 total)Pride? Heh...it is mis-used, alot. But you do have to have some pride. It's that little feeling that keeps your head high. That lets other people know you are in control. That quality that shows through everything and makes life worth living. And it hurts not to have pride...it hurts real bad. And when you don't have much of it...well you gotta hold on to what little you do have...you need that little pride...or you hurt...
I would replace the term pride though with self love that is what I think you need more of but thanks for your comment and your opinion because every person I meet and listen to enables me to enlarge my view :o)
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