Robin Newman

Guide To Healthy Relationships



Posted: Wednesday, May 13, 2009

by Robin Newman
Robin J

I am no relationships expert however there are a few things I have learnt in the last 50 years which may prevent you waiting that long to have happy healthy intimate relationships.

1. It is not always about you hard to believe I know but your partner actually has their own stuff going on.

2. I am a Psychic but never in a million years would I assume I know what my partner is thinking or feeling without having asked them.

3. You get what you give don't expect compassionate behavior from your partner if you have a tendency to litter your conversations with "whatever" or "Not now I am busy" or "Can't it wait until later".

4. It is never about what you think it is about if you are being triggered in an argument look for the other people in the room. By this I mean is it really about her/him not doing what you asked or is it about the fact his/her actions/words trigger a memory of something your father/mother/last partner/sibling did which you are now making your partner pay for.

5. You can't 'hear' someone else when you are talking and this may come as a shock but there are always two sides to a story and unless you shut up and listen to the other person you are never going to understand the stories ending.

6. Reverse everything, ask yourself "would I like it if someone was saying this to me or doing that to me?"

7. If you did it, own it, admit it, work through it. A relationship built on secrets and lies is nothing more than an illusion, which has no depth or meaning to it.

8. Be willing to forgive because your partner is not perfect either.

9. Relationships are like gardens you can't just plant a few seeds and walk away. You have to be prepared to nurture the soul, water the dreams and weed out of things which shouldn't be there.

10. Love is not one thing it is many things. It is layers of consideration, compassion, laughter, tears and joy build up over the years. It is moments and memories, ups and downs, but most of all it a willingness, a commitment to honor and respect each other as the divine creations we are.

I don't always get it right but I am always willing to learn and grow from my mistakes. I don't always say the right thing, do the right thing but my partner is always able to forgive and move on to the next moment without dragging the last one with her. That's what love is, the fireworks and thrills they are the trimming and will sustain you only for a short while. The things you will remember will be gentle words of encouragement when the entire world seems against you. The arms which wrap you up when the pain threatens to engulf you. The feeling of being accepted unconditionally for who you are and the knowledge no matter how many wrinkles you get or how saggy your belly becomes this person sees you as the most beautiful person in the world. That is what relationships are all about and if you can figure this out now then you will have more chance of creating a happy, healthy and blessed relationship in the future.

When one woman looks into the eyes of another she will always see herself reflected. As women we have a common bond which goes beyond colour religion or sexuality.

When we stand beside each other support and encourage each other we become women empowered. Robin J is an Australia Psychic living in Canada who designs workshops, tips and tools designed to help woman step into the Goddess they were born to be.


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